One of the most important things a woman owns is a purse. It can be large or small, expensive or thrifty, and made from pretty much any type of material. No matter it’s size, shape, or style we use it to carry things we will need…essentials….items we cannot live without. It’s also a sacred space. It is universally unwritten rule that you do not go rummaging through anyone’s purse without permission (and even with permission it still feels strange). You just don’t. It’s strange but the purse is probably the one thing you can own as a woman that is understood to be entirely your own and not to be touched by anyone else (and that is okay!). In the movie “How to Lose a Guy in 10 days” there is a scene were the main character (played by Kate Hudson) leaves her purse at her date’s house and the next morning he and his buddies are circling it as if it were a bomb about to go off. They are trying to decide if they should look in it and the conversation goes like this:
Thayer: Do you have an ethical problem with rifling through a woman’s purse?
Ben: Uhh, yeah, I guess I do.
Tony: Well, it’s hardly a purse, dude, it’s more like a… clutch or something.
Ben: Guys, a woman’s purse, alright, it’s her secret source of power. Alright? There are many dark and dangerous things in there, that we, the male species, should know nothing about.
See…men know that a women’s purse is off limits (although after this conversation they knock the purse over and once the contents are spilled on the ground it’s fair game to rifle through.haha)!
On December 27, 2008 my husband, daughter and I were spending the post-holiday weekend cleaning the house and finishing up last minute home improvement projects because come the 29th, a new little baby sister was going to join our family. So there I was, whirling around the house (as much as one can whirl being 87.5 weeks pregnant) putting away the christmas decorations while my husband completed his ‘honey-do’ list. As he was doing some things that required construction he had the garage door open so he could go in and out to the back shed and not have to open the door a million times. He left both cars in the garage because he was doing the work out back (these are all important details). Around 5pm he decides to make a trip to Home Depot and Emma and I wanted to go with. “Let me grab my purse and phone first,” I said and then began the normal search for my purse and phone. Seriously, I can tell you names of friends from first grade but can misplace my purse/phone/keys in less than a minute (often one of them is in my hand). After searching high and low I remembered (finally) I had left my purse (with my phone in it) in the car. Ummmm…guess what? It wasn’t there. We looked at each other in panic and without saying anything my husband takes off running down the alley (it was dusk by now). He is jumping on neighbor’s fences and looking in the trashcans. Can you imagine how frantic I was? My cell phone, wallet (I had to go have a baby in two days….I needed my id and insurance card!), makeup bag (I was most stressed about that one), glasses, gift cards, Christmas money and two weeks worth of eating out money (darn you, Dave Ramsey…thank goodness we had bought our two weeks of grocery with cash that morning). My sweet husband came back panting 5 minutes later having found everything in backyards and trash cans with the exception of my wallet. Thank goodness I had put all the gift cards and christmas money in a zippered compartment rather than my wallet. We frantically got on the phone and cancelled our debit card and thankfully no money had been spent. WHO ON EARTH would have the NERVE, in BROAD DAYLIGHT to walk into our open garage with van and suv parked next to each other (VERY tight squeeze between both cards, mind you) with my husband in and out VERY frequently and steal my purse? We talked to the police and they said there had been some problems in our area and thought it was kids because no one else would have the nerve to do something so risky. It should not come as a surprise I was amazingly angered. As a result, I spent the next few hours fuming around the house completing-insanely-frantically cleaning and putting up five freezer meals. I sat down at 11pm, was in full fledged labor by midnight, and my daughter was born early the next afternoon.
Are you wondering what on earth the correlation between purses and photography is? Stay with me!!!
Last spring, my friend and I came up with such a brilliant idea. We were so excited about it that we released the information probably a little too soon. We still hadn’t trademarked anything or bought a domain but we went ahead and set up our FB page and started the process of launching our plan. You know where this is going, right? Someone stole our (figurative) purse. We made the mistake of leaving our “purse” unattended for a brief moment and it was taken. They used the exact name (even down the the spelling/spacing), the same font, the same concept, everything. We unknowingly handed over a beautifully packaged idea on a silver platter. By the time we had discovered what happened, they were going pretty full force and even though we could prove we had started it first it had potential to be very ugly and after weighing options we decide to let it go. We just took it as a very very hard lesson learned and went back to the drawing board. Once again, we have some amazing ideas and plans in store but know better now to have everything in proper order before launching it. We will keep our purse under lock and key until the right time!!!
This past week, I get a frantic text from two friends who alerted me that someone had taken a couple blog posts of mine and cut and pasted them into their own blog (with no credit). I went and read the posts and got sick to my stomach. Why would they do this? They could have still written about the same idea but did they have to copy exactly what I said? Part of me was flattered in that I guess this person thinks I have great ideas. Part of me was sick in that it felt violating to see my words written as coming from someone else. Part of me is concerned because I don’t know what this person will do next. WHO ON EARTH would have the NERVE in BROAD DAYLIGHT to cut and paste from a very circulated post, and claim it as their own?
Maybe they thought because I’m not famous, well-known, no one would notice or care?
We have all been saying “be nice” to each other the past few weeks. I’m sorry, but someone can figuratively stab you in the back with a smile on their face, or better yet, be nice to you on facebook (as this person has) with one arm around you and the other quickly rifling through your ‘purse’. Forget nice, I will settle for just some basic respect. We are fellow artists. Respect the art. Art is extremely personal. Respect that! I love to write, but I don’t just sit down and write a post or an article or even a guide without a LOT of work involved. Anything I’ve written on in my blog is not essentially an original topic but my words are original to me. If you want to write on the same thing…dig really deep and do so from YOUR perspective, not mine.
There is a lot of stealing going on right now in the photography community. From design templates to photoshop actions to writing to actual photos themselves, blatant robbery is fast on the rise. The virtual world we all tend to live and do business in has made it a whole lot easier for people to be hide behind and be downright sneaky and mean. Please, I beg you, respect your fellow artist. Success earned by ill-gotten gain will not sustain you for a long period of time. You WILL be found out! You only have ONE reputation and when a reputation is shot it is a long road to travel to gain people’s trust again.
We don’t have to all be friends, we don’t have to all love each other’s style or what we do, but we should all have a mutual respect for each other. You know how hard this industry is, how many hours it takes, how much money it sucks from us. Photography is not an easy road. RESPECT THAT!
My hope is this year, that we can all strive to figure out how to fill our purses up with things unique to ourselves and leave our neighbor’s purse alone.

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24 comments
Monica D. - I hate to hear of this blatant theft…even not so blatant theft. Of course people can say it’s a compliment that they thought so highly of you to want to steal your work as their own. The truth is they are cowardly thieves who need to get it together and make a name on their own accord. It truly amazes me that in this world people still think they can get away with anything!!
Lorianne - Very well said! Thank you for putting it out there!
Denise George - Wow! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. What an evil thing for someone to do. We once had a lady walk through our office while we were having a staff meeting and stole things from purses, desks and even my coat, two days before Christmas. While I felt violated by that, I think it would be even worse to have one’s intellectual property stolen. Again, I’m sorry…
Katherine - Beautifully written, Angela! I admire your class.
Shanna-Kaye Fancher - Thank-you for writting this article-you wrote great points. Sorry that you had a “copier”, but glad that you addressed it in the right way. It’s great to get ideas from fellow photogs/business owners, but it’s so dissapointing to see ideas and writings stolen from one person and put on anothers.
Kimberly - Very eloquently said! You’re so right, there’s too much stealing going on, of ‘purses’, ideas AND images. It’s sad that we have to protect ourselves so diligently. Good luck with your new ideas.
Nitny - Thank you Angela. This could not have been written any better!
Julie - It is sad that this type of robbery is seen every day! Thank you for posting this- I hope you dont mind me sharing on my page ( for the thieves to read and maybe rethink their actions )
Denise - I found your blog because MPPhotography linked it on Facebook, and after reading this blog post I thought you might be interested in checking out an organization called LINKwithlove.org which I read about on an artist’s blog named Kal Barteski, it’s an organization that is trying to make people aware and stop the stealing of other peoples art! Just a thought…
Bekah - I came across this linked by a friend on FB- As someone who works in the creative field, aka video games, I appreciate your sentiment. We do a lot of original games, and we make our living by selling them- specifically on the iStore. We have to send in take down notices nearly every wek from someone ripping off our copyrighted/trademarked/ completely protected work. It wastes our time and I mean COME ON! You bottom sucking loser! JUST STOP!
We keep the copy of the legal letter on hand. We send it out. If it doesn’t get taken down by the creator (or we don’t receive an email) we go up another step.
But to take this one step further- there are millions of people out there who play games that were indeed created by someone else. The video game industry is rampant with clones- and the general populace just buys the clones because they are packaged in pretty art even though the original game hasn’t hit the market yet (because it is made by a small team instead of an outsourced company funded by VC money in China).
So yeah. I am all about sharing. But you better believe that NO ONE will beat us to market on an idea in the future because we leaked it too early. You never know who is listening on the internet. And most people, if they think they won’t get legally challenged, are total amoral jerks- no matter what they profess in church on Sunday.
Good luck with your future project!
Megan - I am so sorry that happened to you! That is so buggy. I don’t get what goes through peoples heads. That makes me so annoyed!
Great post!
Sheila - How odd. I guess being a lazy parasite is easier for some, but I dare say karma will get them in the end, it usually does. Sorry you’ve been put thru the ringer but glad you’re determined not to let these setbacks beat you. Hope you left a polite comment on the blog thanking them for the ‘shares’ & adding the link they accidentally missed off… ;o)
Jessica - Thank you for writing this, well said! I’ve had digital work stolen from me which infuriates me because it is how I feed my growing family. I completely agree, our industry is hard and there is a lot of stealing and dishonesty going on. I’ve been burned many times and don’t trust many photographers anymore these days. So sad. Hopefully things can turn around and we can learn to respect one another.
Lori - Your writing is amazing which is probably why they stole it. Thank you for writing so others can get YOUR message out. Unfortunately, the ones who need to pay attention, never do. Someone was right when they said Karma will conquer in the end. It always does even though we may not be around to witness it. Keep doing what you do best because it brings a smile to a lot of people.
Tiffany Farley - By far the best post I have read on this subject!
Annecarole Hebert-Moon - Very well said!
Spring Davison - AMEN!!!!!!
Chantri Keele - Brilliantly worded. It’s a scary world out there especially online when everyone can connect to us. i find myself just having to let go of what I know is mine sometimes…. And thats unfortunate.
Nicole - WOW!! Love this article and LOVE the analogy (sorry you got your wallet/ideas stolen tho!)! I totally agree – we must show each other respect and we must all strive to do things in our own unique and creative ways! We need to stop trying to be someone we are not (something we should have learned from our High School experiences!) Thanks for the honesty and encouragement!
wendy - I agree~ beautifully written Angela! Thanks for sharing.
Marcia - I am sorry that your purse and business concept were stolen. It is very sad that the art we create in any form must practically be kept under lock and key in order for it to stay “ours”.
I have had my personal photography stolen off of facebook. I didn’t have it watermarked and I had my profile set to visible so it is technically my fault. But come on, I should be able to show a friend an image we were discussing, right? This was more than 5 years ago, way before I opened my business. You can bet that anything I post online is watermarked or has my copyright license.
kelly wilk - A very interesting post indeed. I’ve been in the photography business since 1996. Things have changed alot, mostly for the better. I know this “Be Nice” campaign is in full swing right now but I am always cautious… I am happy to help out other photographers but I’ve had a few bad experiences. Just recently, I’ve had a couple “potential” clients ask a ton of questions about having a photo session with me, only to not have them book and then to find out that they are photographers themselves. They were just trying to figure out my pricing, how my sessions work, how long my sessions are….. In this time of “being nice,” I wish it worked both ways! Many photographers in my area offer mentoring classes for new photographers and they make a very nice income offering this service. They certainly don’t want to give it all away for free. Photography has changed and I love almost everything about the changes! We just can’t share everything! Your article was refreshing!
shalonda - WOW!!!!! well said angela well said!!!!! i know this situtaion all too well from the 2nd in your story as well as from personal experience…thanks for putting it so nicely but to the point:)
Natalie - I’m so sorry to hear this. I think the fact that Ctl+C and Ctl+P are such easy little keystrokes to make, so many people forget that it still counts as plagiarism no matter how you try and rename/describe the action.